How To Attract The Man You Want
So you’ve got your profile sorted, you’ve had a few pleasant interactions online with a few guys and even been on a couple of dates. There’s one guy that you particularly like and want to make sure he stays attracted to you. So how do you go about it?
Fortunately, there are several qualities, characteristics, and traits that most men universally look for in a woman. Knowing these will help you to play to those qualities and demonstrate them to the guy that you fit the bill.
Put Your Best Foot Forward
Showing your best qualities is always imperative. You want the guy to see the fun, happy you that enjoys life and is adventurous to try new things. Having self-confidence is a big part of this.
Build Your Self-Confidence
Developing self-esteem isn’t as hard as some people think. It’s all about changing your mind-frame to one which is positive and sees you and your achievements in an empowering light.
If this is an area you need to work on, then spend some time with a journal and write down all your accomplishments that you are proud of. When you do this, recall all of the positive emotions that are associated with that achievement, how good you felt, the praise you received from others, how your world-view seemed to change as a result of new possibilities opening up before you due to your achievement, and so forth. Make it as vivid and real as possible and own your achievement. It may take a little practice at first if you are not used to visualising in this way, but doing this will instantly make you feel great.
Once you have gone through and vividly recalled that achievement, go onto the next one. Spending 5-10minutes doing this every day for 30 days will change your outlook to one of positivity. Once you have this more positive outlook on life, you will walk, talk and conduct yourself in a more confident and empowered way, which other people will pick up on. This new energy that you will be projecting is a very attractive quality to have.
Before you go out, look in the mirror and recall your best qualities and attributes and remember your achievements. Allow the good feelings that are associated with these qualities to circulate and permeate your body. Always keep your positive attitude and enable it to be your guide.
If there are some aspects of yourself you don’t like or that you think people will not like, just think, ‘who gives a damn!’ NO ONE is perfect so own both your positive attributes and your flaws and be comfortable with both. It’s all about your attitude and your energy, and other people will start to find that attractive.
Here’s a great video for women to become more attractive to men – The Secret of Female Power
Improvement and Growth
Continue to look for ways you can grow and improve yourself in any area of your life. A person who is always growing, learning and evolving and having fun in the process is very attractive.
Having your identity and set of values that are important to you is another key aspect to attractiveness. Don’t be an unimaginative person who just agrees with everyone else and uses other people’s opinions without giving them much thought for yourself.
Be definite about your ambitions, your aspirations and where you are going in life.
Working on yourself in this way before you meet a new partner will enable you not only to be more attractive but also to stand up for yourself and maintain your identity.
Knowing and being comfortable with who you are will also make it far easier for you to converse and connect with a guy when the time comes.
Avoid Comparing Yourself to Others
Many women make the mistake of comparing themselves to other women, which is a bad idea. Everyone has good and bad points about themselves. However, when we compare ourselves to others, we tend to place more focus on the other person’s good points and compare them to the aspects of ourselves that we don’t like! This can only serve to lower one’s self-esteem.
It is far better and more empowering to have your standards and make sure you live up to them.
Surround Yourself With Positive People
Maintaining good connections with friends and family members who are also positive and upbeat will rub off on you and enable you to maintain your positive momentum. All this contributes to you feeling good about yourself and reinforces your self-worth and deservedness of love.
Look Good and Keep Yourself in Great Shape
This also applies to your level of hygiene and ensuring that you always look good when you go out. Feeling healthy and looking good will again reinforce your positivity and it will be clearly visible to others.
Men are very visual, so they will firstly notice these aspects of you. However, for most men, physicality is not enough, and they will also want to know there is something deeper to you, which will be backed up by your great attitude and high self-esteem.
So make sure you dress the part as well as keep yourself in great shape and good condition. However, this does not mean you need to put on your makeup and an evening dress to go grocery shopping, just make sure you are clean and you look the part for the occasion.
These tips will stand you in good stead when attracting the guy you want to be with. However, once you have your man and you want to keep him in a relationship long-term, be sure to check out my tips for a lasting relationship.